You have asked me
one of my favorite questions! I am an experienced lady of 50 years who has
had many boyfriends, and I am
now happily married for 15 years to
a husband who still thinks I'm sexy.
The sexiest attraction for men
and women is self-confidence. When you see old, ugly businessmen with
young, lovely girls, it's
because successful businessmen are very
confident about themselves and they attract women who could chose any man
wanted. Older women, too, have more confidence in themselves
because they have succeeded in business or at home.
At 18, you
probably feel very unsure of yourself because everyone at 18 feels that
way. For now, you can demonstrate confidence
by standing tall
with good posture -- hold your head high, hold your shoulders back, and
keep your back straight. Look people in
the eyes when you talk to
them (unless this is rude in your culture; in the US, it is very friendly
to look a person in the eyes).
Good grooming is also very sexy to
men. Keep your hair clean and brushed, keep your face clean and with
simple makeup if you
use makeup, and keep your hands clean and
soft. Men are less excited by a "sex symbol" look than you think -- they
actresses and models do not really look like their
publicity photos. Men are attracted to a woman who looks healthy, and
cleanliness is part of looking healthy.
Another thing that men
find sexy about women is the way they move. Don't rush -- take your time.
Don't swing your arms when
you walk -- you'll look better if you
can keep your arms still or if you can swing them only a little bit.
Always stand up straight when
you walk and look ahead -- don't
look at the ground as if you are shy.
Another tip I want to share
is that men like simple fashions. When a woman wears complicated outfits,
it detracts from the
woman because all the focus is on her
clothes instead of on her. Wear clothes that you feel comfortable in, and
that look good
on you. Find colors and styles that compliment
your skin and hair coloring and your body, and don't worry if they are the
fashion. I think most women wear the new fashions to
impress other women; men don't follow fashion so they don't care what's
Sure, a man is excited by a pretty face and they like
to see a shapely body, but that's merely entertainment. In real life, men
woman who is kind, honest, and who likes herself. Such a
woman makes a good friend, and men want friends just like women
want friends. You can show you are a kind, honest woman by smiling.
In the US, a smile is a show of friendliness. I think a
makes every face look beautiful. Also, there are many medical studies that
show that a smile releases a natural hormone
call "endorphin" in
your brain that makes you feel better. Even when you are not feeling very
happy, if you smile and your brain
gets the natural hormone, you
will start to feel better. And when you feel good, you look good,
I hope I've helped you. If you have any more questions, please
write to me again and I'll do my best to give you advice you can
use. Thank you for visiting my website.