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Question: I feel ugly; how can I feel better?

Hey! I just want to know is there any helpful advice you can give me that will help increase my beauty in a sophisticated manner.
I am a woman of faith. I'm just 18 years old and I'm not getting any attention and haven't been for a long time. Maybe once in a
while when I do try to dress up and keep my hair fixed I get some attention, but not a lot when compared to my friends. It's so
hard sometimes since I don't have a job yet and I don't have enough money to spend to look greater And itís tough because I
always hurt within myself and I try to work on being happier on the inside and worry later about the outside, but itís complicated
to equally balance the two. I know definitely God will bring me someone one day who I will fall in love with, but before He does I
pray that I can feel great about myself, body, shape, nose, hair, and everything else.

I have big feet, big hands, long arms, small chest, little eyes. And the list could keep going on and on about what I don't like
about myself or what's not right. Also another thing, I don't at all have a good posture, I'm a slouch potato in the class or when
I'm eating and I think that's the reason for my bad back problems.

Please inspire me, I have a lot to live for and I'm still young. I have a sister but we moved apart from each other when I was in
kindergarten and haven't seen her for 14 years. So I really never got to have a role model except for other girls at my school and  
TV who don't really do a good job of really expressing the beauty within. They look on the physical appearance as if that's the
only thing boys look for.

Thank You.

Answer:

I've been thinking about your letter for a few days. I can tell you are not very happy, and I want to be careful in my reply. At your
age, many people are not very happy because being 18 is too old to be childish but not old enough to know how to be an adult.
It's an awkward age, but if you're patient, you'll grow out of it.

For now, I can give you some advice that might help. None of my tips concern hair or make up or clothing because they are not
things that attract people. Of course, good grooming is important, but a new skirt or a new hairdo will not change things as much
as showing that you like yourself.

1) You can create natural feel-good hormones in your brain by doing two things: light exercise and smiling. Both of these efforts
generate endorphins, which is how your brain recognizes happiness. Walk 30 minutes a day and smile even if you don't feel
happy, and you'll see what endorphins feel like. (You can also look up "endorphins" online to find many sites that explain
endorphins in detail.)

2) Stand up tall! My gosh, I'd love to be tall. I'm 5 foot 3 inches and I often feel short in the company of adults. Your posture is how
other people can tell how you feel about yourself. If you slump, it sends the message that you're bored with yourself -- and that
does not attract people. If you stand tall, with a straight back and your eyes ahead, you send a message of self-confidence which
is attractive to people. To break your habit of slumping, just straighten up every time you catch yourself; after a few weeks, it'll be
natural to stand tall.

3) When you talk to people, look them in the eye. (Don't stare -- that's kind of creepy.) When you look people directly when you
talk to them, this is also a signal of self-confidence.

4) Get plenty of sleep, at least 8 hours a night. At 18, you might need 9 hours a night. Although your mind is turned off when you
sleep, your body uses that time to take care of itself. Your body is racing all day and sleep helps your body re-generate energy for
the next day. If you are sleepy, your brain does not work well and your reflexes are slow, your skin will not be healthy, and you will
be prone to getting sick from germs that a rested body would easily fend off. It's best to  get your sleep all in one chunk so you
can dream. You go through about 5 dream cycles each night (although you tend to remember only the last dream), and those
dreams help your brain to develop and mature.

5) Teat yourself well: do one thing everyday that makes you feel good. Your treat doesn't have to be a big thing -- maybe you want
to hold a pet cat while she purrs; maybe you like to watch sunsets; maybe there is a fragrance you like to smell because it
reminds you of a good memory; maybe you like to curl up with a book for a few minutes a day; maybe you have a favorite song or
CD that puts you in a good mood. The idea is to forget about who you ARE NOT and reward yourself for who you ARE. Give
thanks for your blessings by enjoying the gift of life. The world has much beauty to offer, so go out and enjoy it!

I hope I've helped, and thank you for visiting my website.
Audrey Rose

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